The power of a party and other musings of 2004

Feeling powerless these days over politics, government spending,
public school curriculum or natural disasters?
Give a party. After attending numerous parties since the
beginning of this column, I firmly believe parties have an
important place in our society
… and I’m not just saying that to encourage more party giving so
I have something to write about (maybe just a little
motivator).
Feeling powerless these days over politics, government spending, public school curriculum or natural disasters?

Give a party. After attending numerous parties since the beginning of this column, I firmly believe parties have an important place in our society … and I’m not just saying that to encourage more party giving so I have something to write about (maybe just a little motivator).

When I announced to my family I was majoring in Humanities at the university my father questioned “Why? What can you do with that?”

With the breadth of vast classical reading the program offered I answered, “I’ll be great at cocktail parties!” Little did I know this opportunity as a columnist would make my smart*@! answer ring true.

The power of a party can be seen throughout history. the Boston Tea Party, a search party, the Republican Party, the Donner Party (bring your own appetizers), etc. etc. Where am I going with this?

My point, if you want some real results in your life, career, social status, give or attend a party.

It’s the gathering at the water hole that connects you with the rest of the herd or sets you apart as the leader.

Don’t be shy, bring those business cards and work the room (but don’t make it obvious).

Talk about the latest book you’ve read or movie you’ve seen. Find out where people grew up, went to school, what charities they support, what instrument they played in school (or still play).

Be careful about playing the “I’ve never” (three fingers up, first one to put them all down loses) game too soon.

We found out much too much about the features editor of the San Jose Mercury News one long weekend party on a houseboat floating in the rain on Lake Don Pedro.

Do find out something about your fellow party goers, it may change your life.

On the subject of friends … a New Year’s resolution: cherish my friends and work to make them feel loved.

My model for this is our new 7-month-old rat terrier.

Dogs have the friend thing down pat. Mabel (named after the innertube on the above houseboating trip) is the exemplary best friend.

She greets her friends with “jump out of her skin” enthusiasm (and a butt that gets there first), loyalty and patience even when her friends are grumpy, and a willingness to share her friend’s food at any time.

The litmus on this canine example is proved when Mabel strips the Christmas tree of the ornaments, pees and poops on the carpet, chews my shoes, and I still adore her, the test of a true friendship. Too bad she can’t host a party.

Ciao for now.

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