Things are tense at our house.
Things are tense at our house. It’s the second week of February, which means it’s getting close to Valentine’s Day, which means my son will have to sign valentine cards. Now some of you are probably wondering how cheery little cards made for demonstrating love and affection could be a source of parental frustration. And, granted, it doesn’t make much sense.
Unless, of course you happen to be a mother of a 9-year-old boy. Then you know that there is nothing harder in this world than getting a third-grader to fill out Valentine’s Day cards for his classmates. Not because he doesn’t like them, mind you, but because chances are some of his classmates are girls.
Naturally, things weren’t always this way. I remember the good old days, back in kindergarten, when Valentine’s Day was a nice, light-hearted holiday filled with love and Winnie-the-Pooh valentines and heart-shaped candy for everyone. But, trust me, all that’s over now.
If you think I’m exaggerating, just try asking any third-grade boy about his opinion on Valentine’s Day cards. Chances are, they will tell you that the mere thought of sending them, especially ones printed with incriminating words such as “like” or “cool,” to a third-grade GIRL, is simply hideous.
And don’t think you can get around it by suggesting he only give cards to the boys in the class. It’s not only unfair and wrong and could cause a lot of hard feelings, but on top of that it’s sort of, well, weird.
Clearly, the only right thing to do is to bring cards for everyone. The teacher, the principal, the crossing guard, his classmates. Everyone. But just try convincing a 9-year-old boy of this.
For instance, our dialogue last night went:
Me: You need to sign your name on all 25 cards.
My son: Twenty-five times? TWENTY-FIVE? I can’t write that much.
Me: Come on, your name only has three letters.
Son: But I feel weak!
Me: Bu-
Son: And, look, my hand is cramping!
Me: But you haven’t written anythin-
Him: OWWWW!!!!!
Sure, I’ve tried letting him pick out Boy-Acceptable Valentine cards with, say, pictures of monster trucks and sports figures and violent super heroes on them. But, call me crazy, I always thought there’s slightly something unconvincing about, “Be My Friend Forever,” written on a picture of two national wresting champs clamped together in a head-lock.
Besides, don’t think for a minute that a third-grade boy will fall for a trick as simple as this.
So, it’s no surprise that I finally had to resort to Plan B: launching into my favorite 10-minute diatribe fondly called Manipulation Through Guilt. I emphasized key points like how he could make the world a better place by showing love. And about how demonstrating love is the noblest emotion humans can have.
And on and on.
Just when I was about to give up and forge his signature myself, he announced that maybe, just maybe, he’d bring the Valentine cards with cookies to school after all.
Apparently, in the third grade, valentine cards are much more acceptable when given out with frosted, heart-shaped cookies.
Unreasonable? Sure.
Manipulative? Maybe.
But regardless of the motivation, at least all 25 cards are signed, and we’re good for another year. And sometimes, with 9-year-old boys and Valentine’s Day, that’s the most you can ask for.
